Essays
The Dialects of Devotion
Affection can register as total immersion, as something kept deliberately light, as two people facing the same horizon, as admiration, or as closeness with the door left unlocked. People miss each other by fluently offering the wrong dialect.
The First Move Toward Closeness
You settle into it, you watch it carefully, you step back from it, or you hover with one hand on the exit. Attachment, as this site reads it, is simply that first involuntary move and what it has historically cost you.
The Three Currencies of Care
You look after people by spending hours in their company, by quietly lifting something off their load, or by saying the thing out loud while it is still true. An inquiry into the currency you trade in, and the one you cannot feel.
The Courage to Name Distance
With the people who matter, you name the distance the moment you feel it, you grant them room and trust the silence, or you move closer and wait for it to pass. Three honest answers to the same quiet fear.